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JUNE 24 - 26, 2021 / WORLDWIDE




6.00 - 7.30


The Therapy Relationship and the Enmeshed Child 

with Wendy Behary and Jeff Conway

Includes LIVE Questions and Answers

This webinar will highlight the ways we explore, conceptualize, and address Schema/Mode activation that occurs within the microcosm of the therapy relationship, with the intention of helping our patients gain insight and healing. 

The therapy relationship, filled with dual activations for both patient and therapist, offers opportunities for the therapist to detect and confront the resonant experiences that others may feel when engaged with the patient.  The use of transparency and self-disclosure can act as a helpful guide for our patients to sense, see, feel, and ultimately, transform self-defeating modes into healthy and adaptive ones.  

In our many years of experience, we find this phenomenon is especially true when working to correct the biased emotional experiences of some of our most challenging patients, for example, those with deeply ingrained core schemas like the enmeshment/undeveloped self. This schema presents many complex issues.  We will especially draw attention to the need for encouraging and fortifying personal self-expression, the use of self-disclosure and attunement, and tracking activations in the therapist-patient dynamic – ones that act as either replications of early life experiences or reactions to them. The emphasis of the work is driven by a conceptualization of the deep unmet needs embedded in experiences of a forfeited or lost self. 

Through the targeted and effective use of empathy, confrontation, cultivation of the patient’s natural inclinations, and supporting autonomy, we guide our patients to eventually lead more balanced and satisfying intrapersonal and interpersonal lives.

About the Presenters

Wendy Behary

With 25 years post-graduate training and advanced level certifications, Wendy is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The New Jersey Institute for Schema Therapy. She has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. Wendy was on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York (until merging in 2012 with the NJ Institute), where she trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. She is a founding fellow and consulting supervisor for The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Aaron T. Beck Institute). Wendy served as the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014, and is currently the chair of the Brainstorming Sub-Committee for the ISST.

Wendy has co-authored several chapters and articles on Schema Therapy and Cognitive Therapy. She is the author of "Disarming the Narcissist...” (New Harbinger, 2013) translated in 10 languages. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on schema therapy for narcissism for professional readers. She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on schema therapy, and the subject of narcissism, interpersonal relationships, anger, and dealing with difficult people. Her work with industry has included speaking engagements focused on interpersonal conflict resolution. Her private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners/people dealing with them, parenting issues, and couples experiencing relationship problems. 

Jeff Conway

Jeff Conway, LCSW is a founding member of the International Society of Schema Therapy and is currently on the Executive Board of the ISST as Training Coordinator. He has served in various roles within the ISST and has been a ST Trainer and Supervisor since 2008.  He is also a Certified ST Couples Therapist and Trainer.  He is trained in Emotion Focused Therapy, an innovative model for couples’ therapy based on Attachment Theory, and is a founder of The New York Center for Emotion Focused Therapy.   He is also a Certified Group Therapist and has led 2 Psychodynamic Groups for over 15 years.  Jeff also has expertise on the Enmeshment and Undeveloped Self Schema and has provided training and supervision on conceptualizing and establishing strategies to help heal this Unconditional Schema.  Special focus of this work has been the impact of the Enmeshment Schema on primary relationships and strategizing ways to address this Schema in the context of couples’ treatment.

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