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SKILL CLASS 17 | DAY 2: 4.15 PM - 5.45 PM

How Dysfunctional Modes Mess Up Your Sexuality

by Wiesette Krol and Judith van Hommerig


Schema therapy is all about the interaction between temperament, upbringing and (traumatic) experiences in the family and or the environment / at school. Schemas emerge because of the lack of fulfilling the basic needs. The literature describes schemas, coping and modes, but not sexuality.  It is our experience that this theme is important in therapy and essential to elaborate. Sexuality is all about self-esteem, fear of rejection and abandonment, identity, intimacy, and distance. When we talk about sexuality in therapy, we learn more about the core themes of the patient, his schemas, and modes. How can you bring this subject up in therapy? Is it possible to use ST language? Which exercises can you use? In this skills class, we will teach you to be comfortable talking about this subject.
We developed a two-year tapering treatment plan in phases. After one year of therapy, they reach the phase referred to as puberty, and we talk for a few weeks about sexuality. The client has grown and can talk about sexuality. He /she can discover what he likes or dislikes. We do experiential exercises with demanding and punitive parents, detached protectors and self-soothers. In this model, a punitive side is forcing the patient to discover dangerous forms of sexuality because he thinks he is worthless or because he is afraid of setting limits. This workshop will help you talk about sexuality with clients, give you a framework for doing this and encourage you to develop additional experiential exercises to use in individual and group therapy.  Attendees at this workshop may choose patients from their case load. We look at how to regulate tension, intimacy, and distance, how to feel emotions and reflect on them, how to make healthy choices in behavior. 

Level of Experience Required for Participants: 

Intermediate / Advanced ST Therapists

About the Presenters:

Wiesette Krol

Wiesette Krol is a clinical psychologist, Cognitive Behavior Therapist Supervisor, and Schema Therapist Trainer/Supervisor. 

From 1997- 2000, Wiesette was trained and supervised by Jeffrey Young, the founder of Schema Therapy. She has also been trained and supervised in Group Schema Therapy by Ida Shaw and Joan Farrell.

For the past 15 years, Wiesette has worked with schema therapy, treating personality disorders (cluster B and C), individually and in groups, along with ambulant and day treatment care. Previously, Wiesette was the head of the Department of Personality and Developmental Disorders at the RIAGG Maastricht. Currently, she works at the Academic Hospital in Maastricht as Manager/Clinical Psychologist. 

Since its formation in 2007, Wiesette has been a Senior Member of the Dutch Schema Therapy Society, and is an ISST Advanced Certified Schema Therapist since 2008.

Judith van Hommerig

Judith van Hommerig is a Registered Drama Therapist, Psychodrama Therapist, and Senior Schema Therapist.  She teaches schema therapy with her colleagues at the Academy of Schema Therapy in the Netherlands. Judith has developed new programs in schema therapy for youth, family relationship therapy, and adults with personality disorers. She is also supervising teams and indviduals to help integrate specialized experiental tools within schema therapy.   

Why Schema Therapy?

Schema therapy has been extensively researched to effectively treat a wide variety of typically treatment resistant conditions, including Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Read our summary of the latest research comparing the dramatic results of schema therapy compared to other standard models of psychotherapy.

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